Women who cannot see that they love the drama and not the man. 'Drama-sex' must be in the lexicon somewhere, surely, though I haven't come across the phrase yet. It does identify a particularly ugly type of person though, and thus the phrase ought to become regular currency as soon as you can make it so. Surely it separates out for contempt two particular types of woman (and man?) - the one who must wrap her copulations in some contrived drama to get an increased sexual response from them; and (secondly) the one who returns to some former partner in order to create some - quite artificial - Grand Romance ('the guy she just could not get over') a grand romance that suddenly lights up what nevertheless remains a scrubby little narrative.
Surely you guys really do need to identify the first of these two girls/women, expose them for what they are so that the rest of you can step around the mess, and then remove yourselves from their lives, don't you? The girl who will always cheat on her partner because, amongst other reasons, cheat-sex (the contrived drama) is way more thrilling for her. The woman who must continually engineer dramas in which men pursue her, or in which they 'prove' their love in some way, or in which they fight for 'the relationship' after she's undermined it.
'For us, sex is all in the mind' - they boast. When she's getting herself off, what do you guys think is going on 'in the mind' exactly? Is it some contrived drama in which her man could have had anyone but he chose her, or in which rowing loudly and then making-up proves that her man feels something for her, or in which she might have been noticing a work colleague and her man must show that he is prepared to 'work for the relationship', or the drama which is pretty much the only one that gets her off, the one in which he furiously takes her because he can't stop himself any longer (it's called bratting)? God Almighty. There is an obvious problem for you men isn't there. How long can these people keep these babyish dramas up? A couple of years? Three?
You need to identify the second of these two drama-sex people also, don't you. The ex-partner returning to you after that terrible absence. Do you really want to grant them this drama-sex narrative? Really? As she writes into her life the 'One She Could Never Get Over' drama - is she really in love with you? Really? Or, rather, is it the drama she's in love with and she lacks the self-awareness, she's too dumb, to see it? She's leaving another to return to you, and you think you'll be happy ever after. But aren't you two men in fact interchangeable? If that 'other' had been her first love, and you her current one, would she in fact leave you to return to him, simply because he had been there first? Isn't it the drama-sex narrative she's in love with, not you? And how long can these drama-sex narratives continue to thrill her up? They wear off don't they? What must it be - a couple of years at most? Were they ever involved with you? And if they ever were, then just how stable can these people ever be?
And you guys. Do women ask the same question of you? Does your 'love' also rest on a base of silly and slowly evaporating drama-sex?
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