I've not seen it in any of the literature - the dumping of a boyfriend shortly after he has been bereaved or, secondly, shortly after hospital treatment. Surely it is only anecdotally significant at the moment. But I see it in the society I live in. Is it noticeable in your society?
If it is significant - why do girls and women do it? If it is significant in his particular world then a boy or man, who is with someone he wishes to keep, needs to firstly 'see' the danger and then to tread very carefully through his bereavement or his injury surely.
What exactly is going on? Is it that there exists a type of woman who needs the illusion that her man is invulnerable? She knows that it's not his fault of course, is it that she's unaccepting of male vulnerability? Or is it that she does not see herself nurturing a grown man, nurturing is what you do to children? Is it that the death of her boyfriend's relative, or his hospitalization, is a serious thing and while we're hard up against a serious thing why not address that other 'serious thing' in our life - is he the one we want to spend the rest of our lives with, and if he isn't then what's the point?
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